A Joyful Practice

Reflections on the Figure of a Father (a prologue) June 18, 2023

Happy Pride! Happy Dads’ Day!! Many blessing to all!!!

“15. You see a man in two ways, the one with his body and the other in his representation in a picture or statues, of these the former kind is more frail than the latter; because the embodied man is beset by troubles and diseases in his fading and mouldering, decaying and dying body, whereby the other is not. (The frame of the living man, is frailer than his dead resemblance).”

– quoted from (Book 6) “CHAPTER XXIX. Pantheism. Description of the World as Full with the Supreme Soul.” of The Yoga-Vasishtha Maharamayana of Valmiki (translated from the original Sanskrit by  VIHARI-LALA MITRA)

June 18^th is a day when I often focus on “defining moments.” For some people, one of the most defining moment of their lives is when they decide to be a parent. To be clear, I’m not talking about the moment they starting trying to conceive or even the moment they discover the conception – although, for some, the moments are one and the same. No, here, I am specifically talking about the moment a person decides they are going to do the work required to be the best parent they can be. As indicated by the quote above, today, I am also specifically talking about “a man.”

We can see (i.e., understand) Yoga Vasishtha 29.15 as referring to men-folk and also to human beings in general. The concept holds true, either way. The statement also holds true if we tweak the language a bit and recognize that “You can see a father in two ways….” There is the the frail, embodied being that begets a child and then there is the representation, the father-figure: the ones we call dad, pa, da, papa, daddy, pappi, paw-paw, gran-daddy, pepaw, uncle-pappy, hey, and any number of names I haven’t listed (including father, if your family is formal like that).

This is not a perfect metaphor, because a picture or a statue does little in the way of active action. Art can, however, leave an impression. It can touch our souls and leave an impression in our hearts and mind. A picture or a statue can even influence the way we see ourselves and the world and, therefore, the way we interact with ourselves and the world. In fact, leaving an impression is one of the intentions of the artist, the creator – and that’s really where I’m going with this idea:

A good parent is someone who intentional (and sometimes unintentionally) leaves a positive impression that influences the way we see ourselves and the world and, therefore, the way we interact with ourselves and the world.

So, as I have said before – and will say again and again, this so-called “Fathers’ Day” is not a fertility celebration. It is a celebration of the ones we call dad, pa, da, papa, daddy, pappi, paw-paw, gran-daddy, pepaw, uncle-pappy, hey, and any number of names I haven’t listed (including father, if your family is formal like that). It is a celebration of those who do the work to raise us up. It is a celebration of those who do the care and the feeding. It is a celebration of the ones whose influence “…lasts for ages with its undiminished beauty.” (YV 29.16)

Click here for the 2020 blog post about Dad’s Day (a.k.a Father’s Day) when it coincided with a bunch of different observations, including International Yoga Day – which falls on the anniversary of the birth of the T. K. V. Desikachar (b. 06/21/1938). NOTE: I have not yet updated the post to reflect the fact that there were religious observations in the Middle Ages that celebrated mothers and maternal figures.

Click here for the slightly more personal 2022 blog post about Dad’s Day (a.k.a Father’s Day) when it coincided with Juneteenth.

There is no class today, but I will be back on schedule (and on Zoom) tomorrow. If you are on my Sunday recording list, I have sent you a copy of the 2020 Dad’s Day practice and a copy of the philosophical 90-minute practice from June 18, 2022. If you want to be added to my Sunday list (or any other list), please email me or comment below.

The “Dad’s Big Day” playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify.

The playlist for June 18, 2022, practice is also available on on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “09042021 Experiencing the Mind”]

A Mother’s Ode to Her Father

A Father’s Ode to His Mother

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Errata: The original posting incorrectly referenced the “Father of Modern Yoga,” which is how T. K. V. Desikachar’s father is often remembered. 

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