TAKE A DEEP BREATH! April 3, 2009
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Smile. You may not know it, but your life just changed.
Skeptical?
Take another deep breath. Now, deepen your expression.
Whether you are new to yoga, a dedicated practitioner, or just someone trying to sort out all of the hullabaloo (and not call it “yogart” in mixed company), a joyful practice can help you find things you didn’t know you needed – and explore gifts you didn’t know you had to offer.
Still skeptical? That’s cool. It doesn’t change the fact that somewhere between that first deep breath and this next one (Inhale….Exhale.) your brain chemistry changed!
And just think, you didn’t even have to step on a mat.
Namaste!
Sunday Music & Blessings July 26, 2026
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Peace, blessings, and hydration!
Please join me today (Sunday, July 26th) at 2:30 PM for a yoga practice on Zoom. You can use the link from the “Class Schedules” calendar if you run into any problems checking into the class. You can request an audio recording of this practice via a comment below or (for a slightly faster reply) you can email myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
Sunday’s playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “04192020 Noticing Things”]
NOTE: Each playlist is actually two playlists and you can decide which one you use. You can start with Track #1, Track #11 (for the least breaks on either platform), or start with Track #12, #13, or #14 for a slightly psychedelic experience. Track #14 on the Spotify is self-contained.
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026
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Believe More Like the Birds & Trees (the “missing” Saturday post) July 25, 2026
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Stay hydrated, y’all, and “may our hearts be open!”
This is the “missing” (and backdated) compilation post (with excerpts) for Saturday, July 25th. My apologies to KJ and anyone else I left off the music email. You can request an audio recording of this practice via a comment below or (for a slightly faster reply) you can email myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
“We don’t see reality – we only see what was useful to see in the past. But the nature of the brain’s delusional past is this: The past that determines how you see isn’t just constituted by your lived perceptions but by your imagined ones as well. As such, you can influence what you see in the future just by thinking.”
— quoted from “Chapter 5. The Frog Who Dreamed of Being a Prince” in Deviate: The Science of Seeing Differently by Beau Lotto
Do you ever think about how your beliefs inform what you feel, think, say, and do? Here, I’m not only talking about social norms and the idea/belief that there are times when it is appropriate or not appropriate to do certain things. Neither am I only talking about the idea/belief that the way we think/believe can lead to suffering and/or the alleviation of suffering. No, here, I am talking about all of that as well as the fact that we have limiting beliefs that can hinder us, as well as (what we can call) “possibility beliefs” that make the “impossible” possible.
Neuroscientists, like Dr. Beau Lotto, talk about our “space of possibility.”, which is based on our previous experiences and includes our habits and habitual thinking. What we experience in a past moment, informs what and how we experience the present moment; which, in turn, informs our future moments. And, all of this creates a set of beliefs about what we can and/or cannot do.
When we desire a certain outcome and we believe that outcome is possible, we do what we need to do — take the steps we need to take (even when they seem like giant leaps to others) — until we achieve the desired outcome. Even when we experience setbacks and obstacles, we find a way, because we believe in what we are doing. We don’t give up easily, or at all. On the flip side, if we do not believe in something — even a little bit — we don’t even get started. If we believe a little bit, maybe we start an endeavor; but, as soon as we hit a road block, we give up and turn around. This connection between what we believe and what we feel, think, say, and do is why it is important to examine our beliefs every now and again. It is also why it is important, every now and again, to change our inner dialogue.
A key element to this paradigm is the fact that can believe things are true when they are not true and believe things are not true when they are actually true. This is defined in the Yoga Sūtras as avidyā (“ignorance” or “nescience”). Avidyā is the first dysfunctional/afflicted thought pattern that leads to suffering and the bedrock of the other four dysfunctional/afflicted thought patterns. (YS 2.3-2.9) It is the opposite of vidyā (“correct knowledge”).1 One of the interesting things to note when we are dealing with avidyā and our beliefs is that not believing in something doesn’t mean we won’t be affected by the Truth. At the same time, believing in something that is not true can affect our experience with reality.
“A yogi whose afflictions are attenuated can clearly see their presence in their subtle form in her mind. She can also see that they have the potential to induce the mind and senses to conform to their demands. But through sadhana, the yogi has developed the capacity to subdue these attenuated afflictions and prevent them from influencing her mind and senses.”
“By describing the four states of affliction, Patanjali is addressing the pain and sorrow of all human beings, whether or not they have heard of yoga or regard themselves as yoga practitioners. We are all striving to achieve happiness.”
— quoted from the commentary on Yoga Sūtra 2.4 from The Practice of the Yoga Sutra: Sadhana Pada by Pandit Rajmani Tigunait, PhD
Bottom line: There are things that are going to be true, whether we believe them or not, and there are things that are not going to be true, whether we believe them or not. In both cases, our beliefs define our experience of reality, because our beliefs determine what we do in any given situation.
Consider gravity for a moment. Gravity is defined as a force that draws one object towards the center of another object. We are all subject to the laws of gravity, even if we do not believe in gravity. If we believe we can fly and attempt to fly, our disbelief in gravity can lead to bodily injury and maybe death. We will fall down. If, however, we believe in gravity and we also believe in our ability to fly, we will take the steps necessary to mitigate the effects of gravity. If our our belief in gravity is more than our belief in our desire/ability to fly (i.e., we have a lot of disbelief in our abilities), we will not take the steps needed to soar.
“Be like the bird, who
Halting in his flight
On limb too slight
Feels it give way beneath him,
Yet sings
Knowing he hath wings.”
— quoted from the poem “Be Like the Bird” by Victor Hugo
NOTE: In Abbie Betinis’s musical composition (which is on the playlists), “she” has wings.
Perhaps you have no interest in flying. Perhaps, you are only interested in metaphorical soaring (i.e., being successful in your endeavors). Either way, accomplishing your goals requires having the means (artha), which include your good health. Ancient sciences, like Āyurveda, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), traditional African medicines, bush medicine, Native medicines (related to the Americas), and other ancient or folk medicines, typically focus on using natural elements to keep the mind-body-spirit balanced. These practices can include herbs and/or dietary restrictions, in general, as well as adjustments related to the various seasons.
For example, we are currently at the beginning of Dà shǔ (大暑, “Great heat” or “Major heat”), which is the twelfth solar term and the last part of summer according to the traditional Chinese calendar. This is considered the hottest time of the year in most of China and a time when many people adjust their diets and activities in order to maintain balance during a time that can heighten lethargy, anxiety-based fear, and difficulties in self-regulation.
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Dà shǔ “Major Heat” 2023 (an updated and revised post) *UPDATED*
“All emotions associated with the organs are considered natural responses to life. Yet when they become compulsive or prolonged, they become injurious to our overall health.”
— quoted from the “Emotional Qualities” section of “12. The Lungs and Large Intestine” in Insight Yoga: An innovative synthesis of traditional yoga, meditation, and Eastern approaches to healing and well-being by Sarah Powers (Forward by Paul Grilley, Photography by Matthew Carden)
You can poo-poo these beliefs and practices, but consider how often we hear about people acting (extra) erratically in places that experience extreme heat. Consider that even modern science points to the way extreme heat (as well as extreme cold) saps our energy and makes it hard to think and/or process strong emotions.
Now, consider what happens when you check in with the way you feel physically, mentally, emotionally, energetically, and even spiritually or religiously. Consider what happens when you take the knowledge of how you are feeling and combine it with knowledge about things that contribute to your wellbeing.
“When the small intestine chi is out of balance, there is poor sorting, and unclear information and emotions dominate and deteriorate the inner system.”
— quoted from the “Emotional Qualities” section of “13. The Heart and Small Intestine” in Insight Yoga: An innovative synthesis of traditional yoga, meditation, and Eastern approaches to healing and well-being by Sarah Powers (Forward by Paul Grilley, Photography by Matthew Carden)
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“The key is to achieve balance, which means being flexible, diverse, moderate, and in harmony with your own rhythm and needs. Chinese medicine makes use of acupuncture, herbs, diet, physical exercise, massage, mental discipline, and the modification of life-style habits as forms of therapy to reestablish the rhythmic swing of the Yin-Yang pendulum.”
— quoted from the “Everyday Life” section of “Chapter Four – Cycles of Circles: A Theory of Relativity Yin-Yang” in Between Heaven and Earth: A Guide to Chinese Medicine by Harriet Beinfield, L.Ac. and Efrem Korngold, L.Ac., O. M. D.
If you are someone who only believes in modern science, consider that there are still a lot of unknowns in modern science. If you are someone who scoffs at indigenous medicine, consider how modern scientists are proving more and more of the claims made by ancient medicines. Similarly, if you are someone who only believes in ancient medicine and/or the healing power of your faith, consider that there is also power (and some Truth) in all of these disciplines.
One of the commonalities in all of the medical sciences, is the belief that there is something energizing (and animating) the mind-body. Different cultures and sciences have different energetic mapping systems. For example, modern science points to the neural pathways and the central and peripheral nervous system. Yoga and Āyurveda (as the come to us from India) describe an energetic mapping system composed of nādis (energy “channels” or “rivers”), marma points or marmāni (“vital” or “vulnerable” points), and chakras (energy “wheels”). Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) outlines a meridian system. We can disbelieve any and all of the systems. We can dismiss ancient sciences as pseudoscience (ignoring the fact that the scientific method is, itself, an ancient science). However, what is interesting to me is how the systems overlap.
The central nervous system runs down the center of the body — around the same area where some people believe the sushumna nadi is located and where the chakras are created by the ida and pingala nadis overlapping sushumna nadi.2 According to TCM, the governing and conception vessels are also housed in this general area. I’m not saying these are the same things. They clearly are not! I am saying that there is some wisdom in all of these systems. I am saying it is possible that some of this is true and modern technology simply gives us more definitive and demonstrable proof of the Truth.
However, even if none of this is true — and even modern science is getting some things wrong, these different disciplines provide a lens through which we can better understand our lived experiences. When we better understand our experiences, we can make better decisions and be more successful in our endeavors. We can soar and sing, just like the birds. We can shed what no longer serves us and blossom, when the time is right, just like the trees.
We can take responsibility for our own wellbeing and change our inner dialogue so that we create more opportunities for success.
“As humans, we have the capacity to see the difference between avidya and vidya. We can choose to harness one and subdue the other and thus become the creator of our own destiny.”
— quoted from the commentary on Yoga Sūtra 2.5 from The Practice of the Yoga Sutra: Sadhana Pada by Pandit Rajmani Tigunait, PhD
Saturday’s playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “07252023 More Like Birds & Trees”]
NOTE: We have used different playlists for previous practices on this date. The YouTube playlist contains additional videos. I was not aware of this “Birdsong” when I made this playlist, so it is not (currently) included on either format.
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026
NOTES:
1Pramāṇa (YS 1.6-1.7) can also be translated into English as “correct knowledge” or “correct understanding”; however, it refers to the first of five mental functions (i.e., ways in which we gain/process knowledge).
2Sushumna is (“central” or “center”) and is associated with one of the primary rays of the sun. It also appears in some sacred text as a word meaning “very gracious or kind”. Ida is designated as the (“left principle channel”). It is associated with “earth” and is also the name of various daughters (in different sacred text or scripture) who have stabilizing affects. Pingala nadis is designated as the “right principle channel” and has a plethora of different associations within different Indian disciplines. In Āyurveda it is also “one who is reddish brown tawny, yellow-coloured small kind of owl”, as well as a name for the owl.
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Remembering Last Year’s Taco Tuesday (a quick note with excerpts) July 22, 2026
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Many blessings to everyone, everywhere (and especially to those working to keep their cool)!
“The truth, from my perspective, is that the world, indeed, is ending — and is also being reborn. It’s been doing that all day, every day, forever. Each time we exhale, the world ends; when we inhale, there can be, if we allow it, rebirth and spiritual renewal. It all transpires inside of us. In our consciousness, in our hearts. All the time.”
— Tom Robbins quoted in the Reality Sandwich article “The Syntax of Sorcery: An Interview with Tom Robbins” by Tony Vigorito (posted online June 6, 2012)
The following is a revised and note from 2025.
A week ago (in 2025), I headed outside despite the heat — and despite knowing it was just going to get “greater”. I headed out, because it was Tuesday and I desired some “Box Tacos”. Only, the place with the really good vegan stuff inexplicably closed just as I pulled up. So, what did I do with all that desire (and hunger)?
I remembered that “I can’t always get what I want… but I could get what I need”. Then I practiced a little gratitude (because I had other options) and also a little santosha (“contentment”).
In the end, one could argue if I made the right choice (at least on one level). On the practice level, however, there is no arguing with reality. That day, “the perfect taco” turned out to be a salad.
Today is the anniversary of the birth of Tom Robbins (b. 1932) and also the beginning of Dà shǔ ( 大暑 ), “Great heat” or “Major heat”).
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FTWMI: If only it was Taco Tuesday… [with Good Advice] (a Monday post-practice post)
Dà shǔ “Major Heat” 2023 (an updated and revised post) *UPDATED*
“The key is to achieve balance, which means being flexible, diverse, moderate, and in harmony with your own rhythm and needs.”
— quoted from the “Everyday Life” section of “Chapter Four – Cycles of Circles: A Theory of Relativity Yin-Yang” in Between Heaven and Earth: A Guide to Chinese Medicine by Harriet Beinfield, L.Ac. and Efrem Korngold, L.Ac., O. M. D.
Please join me today (Wednesday, July 22nd) at 4:30 PM or 7:15 PM for a yoga practice on Zoom. You can use the link from the “Class Schedules” calendar if you run into any problems checking into the class. You can request an audio recording of this practice via a comment below or by emailing myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
Wednesday’s playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “07222020 The Perfect Taco”]
Extreme heat can not only make people lethargic and unmotivated, it can also lead to extreme agitation and anxiety-based fear. We may find it hard to think, hard to feel (or process our feelings), and/or hard to control our impulses. If you are struggling in the US, help is available just by dialing 988.
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026
### WHAT’S YOUR PERFECT TACO? ###
FTWMI: A Quick Note & EXCERPT: “The Stories Behind the Music (or The Vibration Behind the Vibration)” July 21, 2026
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Many blessings to everyone, everywhere.
For Those Who Missed It: The following was originally posted in 2025 (with the prompt question was, “If you were going to write a story, what would be the subject of your story?”)
Class details, some links, and some formatting have been updated/added.
“I may be wrong about this, but it seems as though so much fiction, particularly that by younger people, is very much about themselves. Love and death and stuff, but my love, my death, my this, my that. Everybody else is a light character in that play.
When I taught creative writing at Princeton, [my students] had been told all of their lives to write what they knew. I always began the course by saying, ‘Don’t pay any attention to that.’ First, because you don’t know anything and second, because I don’t want to hear about your true love and your mama and your papa and your friends. Think of somebody you don’t know. What about a Mexican waitress in the Rio Grande who can barely speak English? Or what about a Grande Madame in Paris? Things way outside their camp. Imagine it, create it. Don’t record and editorialize on some event that you’ve already lived through. I was always amazed at how effective that was. They were always out of the box when they were given license to imagine something wholly outside their existence. I thought it was a good training for them. Even if they ended up just writing an autobiography, at least they could relate to themselves as strangers.”
— Toni Morrison, quoted from the American Theatre interview “Write, Erase, Do It Over: On Failure, Risk and Writing Outside Yourself — Learning how to fail well is as crucial a part of a writer’s craft as putting words on a page. With other kinds of failure, you have less control.” by Rebecca Gross (dated March 10, 2015)
Writers are often taught, “Write what you know.” Some authors and creative writing teachers think that is the best advice ever. Others, as noted above* and below, think this old standard it is not so great advice. But, have you ever considered that (on a certain level) writers have no choice? Have you ever considered that every writer writes from their own experience — even when they are writing about the experience of others and even when they are writing about places that are not their home?
Storytelling is part of being human. Before we are born, our brains start processing all the sensations/information around us and communicating a story about the present moment. (YS 2.18-20) From an early age, we tell stories about how our day went and how we wish our day had gone. We make up stuff, embellish stuff, and tell lies. Or, we tell stories about things that randomly pop up in our head. Sometimes, those stories can be pretty fantastical. But, every time we tell a story, we are telling the story based on our understanding of the world, which is based on our past experiences and our samskara (“mental impression”).
In other words, we write what we know (and what we understand).
Now, take a moment to consider that much of what we read is available for us to read (and interests us) because of our previous experiences and, also, the experiences and identity of the writer — no matter their subject matter. This is why two writers can tell very different stories even when they are writing about the same things and the same places.
This is also why you may hear about one great author and not another.
Click on the excerpt title below for the very different stories of two writers born on July 21st.
The Stories Behind the Music (or The Vibration Behind the Vibration)
“Every Wednesday, I teach an introductory fiction workshop at Harvard University, and on the first day of class I pass out a bullet-pointed list of things the students should try hard to avoid…. The last point is: Don’t Write What You Know.”
“The idea panics them for two reasons. First, like all writers, the students have been encouraged, explicitly or implicitly, for as long as they can remember, to write what they know, so the prospect of abandoning that approach now is disorienting. Second, they know an awful lot. In recent workshops, my students have included Iraq War veterans, professional athletes, a minister, a circus clown, a woman with a pet miniature elephant, and gobs of certified geniuses. They are endlessly interesting people, their lives brimming with uniquely compelling experiences, and too often they believe those experiences are what equip them to be writers. Encouraging them not to write what they know sounds as wrongheaded as a football coach telling a quarterback with a bazooka of a right arm to ride the bench. For them, the advice is confusing and heartbreaking, maybe even insulting. For me, it’s the difference between fiction that matters only to those who know the author and fiction that, well, matters.”
— quoted from The Atlantic (Fiction 2011 Issue) essay, “Don’t Write What You Know: Why fiction’s narrative and emotional integrity will always transcend the literal truth” by Bret Anthony Johnston
Please join me today (Tuesday, July 21st) at 12:00 Noon or 7:15 PM for a yoga practice on Zoom. You can use the link from the “Class Schedules” calendar if you run into any problems checking into the class. You can request an audio recording of this practice via a comment below or (for a slightly faster reply) you can email me at myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
Tuesday’s playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “07212020 A Tale of Two Writers”]
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026
*NOTE: The Toni Morrison quote (above) is from a section of the interview titled, “Failures In Contemporary American Literature”
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Another Quick Note & EXCERPT: “A Quick Note & Excerpts About Using the Hook…” (the post-practice Monday post) July 20, 2026
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Many blessings to everyone and especially to anyone putting together the pieces for peace, freedom, and wisdom (inside and outside).
This is the post-practice post for Monday, July 20th. The 2026 prompt question was, “On a scale of 1 to 10, how well do you deal with the unexpected?” You can request an audio recording of these practices or a previous practice via a comment below or (for a slightly faster reply) you can email myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
“Don’t rush me, just this once
I wanna make this moment last
Slow down the pace, there’s no hurry
I can’t let another pass me by again
Let me be the one to say when I’ve had enough
Just let me close my eyes, memorize
The way things are this minute”
— quoted from the song “Hold On” by Santana (written by Ian Thomas1)
The practices over the last week have partially focused on the American Tibetan Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön’s teachings around the concept of shenpa and the practice of the four R’s. One of the underlying truths within these practices is that, when our buttons get pushed, when we get hot, we lose focus on this present moment. Or, more precisely, we lose focus of what is important in this present moment. And, so, the practices are ultimately about staying present, right here and right now.
But, here’s a curious thing: While the Tibetan word shenpa can be translated into English as “urge, impulse, charge, or attachment”, it was first introduced to me as “hook” — which made me think of music. A musical hook, in some ways, draws us into the present moment and, so, it can be a really convenient way to practice using the hook to get unhooked. Since we don’t typically use music during the Common Ground Meditation Center practices, today, I only made a passing reference to the “hooky” music of Carlos Santana, who was born today in 1947.
The music, however, has always been just one little piece of the July 20th practices. Mostly, today’s practices (over the years) have been inspired by the first Special Olympics games (today in 1968) and the fact that we can get “hooked” when our expectations are not met (i.e., when things are not as we expect them to be based on our previous experiences).
“Rosemary was born September thirteenth at home—a normal delivery. She was a beautiful child, resembling my mother in physical appearance. But early in life Rosemary was different. She was slower to crawl, slower to walk and speak than her two bright brothers. My mother was told she would catch up later, but she never did.
— quoted from a September 22, 1962, article by Eunice Kennedy Shriver printed in The Saturday Evening Post
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“Today
Is all I really need to find the answers
I’ll find the constant flow
Of all the harmony”
— quoted from the song “All the Love of the Universe” by Carlos Santana (b. 07/20/1947), written by Carlos Santana / Neal Schon
There is no playlist for the Common Ground Meditation Center practices.
NOTE: In previous years, we have used a playlist available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “07202021 Using the Hook”] The YouTube playlist has an extra track in the before/after section.
“…you catch your breath, you look around…. and you begin to notice….”
— quoted from “Welcome to Holland” by Emily Perl Kingsley ©1987
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026
NOTE: 1The song “Hold On” was written and originally recorded by Ian Thomas. For some reason, some of the online credits related to the Santana cover (on the The Essential Santana album) list “Ian Bland, Stephen Paul Thomas” as songwriters. I don’t believe these latter credits are accurate; but, I am including them here just in case.
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FTWMI: A Quick Note & EXCERPTS RE: Accusations July 19, 2026
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Peace and many blessings to everyone, everywhere.
For Those Who Missed It: It kind of doesn’t matter that the following was originally posted in 2025, because it keeps being a timely post. Some class details, links, and formatting have been updated/added.
“And now the image of [our country] is sullied by this filth, and history shall record that it was under your presidency that this crime against society was committed.
At the root of it all is one evil man. … Nobody would ever believe the experiments to which he subjected the unfortunate….”
— from “J’Accuse” by Emile Zola, published in L’Aurore on January 13, 1898
As DJ Shadow once said, “It is happening again…. It is happening again.” The news and social media are full of public accusations of someone doing something nefarious and unethical, followed by a writer (or writers) being accused of libel because of something they printed in the newspaper.
The same thing happened in 2020 (and 2021 and 2022), 2023 (and 2024 and 2025) — and the same thing was happening when Emile Zola fled France today in 1898 (which is where we begin).
CLICK ON THE EXCERPTS BELOW FOR HOW WE CAN USE THESE EVENTS TO GET UNHOOKED!
A Segue & FTWMI: Still Getting (Un)Hooked, After All These Years
“As they have dared, so shall I dare. Dare to tell the truth, as I have pledged to tell it, in full, since the normal channels of justice have failed to do so. My duty is to speak out; I do not wish to be an accomplice in this travesty. My nights would otherwise be haunted by the spectre of the innocent man, far away, suffering the most horrible of tortures for a crime he did not commit.”
— from “J’Accuse” by Emile Zola, published in L’Aurore on January 13, 1898
Since it keeps happening, we’ll keep practicing. Please join me today (Sunday, July 19th) at 2:30 PM for a yoga practice on Zoom. You can use the link from the “Class Schedules” calendar if you run into any problems checking into the class. You can request an audio recording of this practice via a comment below or (for a slightly faster reply) you can email myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
Sunday’s playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “07192020 Compassion & Peace, J’Accuse!”]
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026
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Taking Another Look @ Madiba’s Lessons on Compassion, Peace, and Music (the “missing” Saturday compilation post) July 18, 2026
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“Shabbat Shalom” to anyone observing Shabbat Chazon! Peace and many, many blessings to everyone and especially to anyone practicing peace, freedom, and wisdom (inside and outside)!
This is the “missing” compilation post for Saturday, July 18th. It includes some new and “remixed/re-purposed” content, as well as excerpts. You can request an audio recording of this practice via a comment below or (for a slightly faster reply) you can email myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
“If my mind can conceive it, if my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it….”
— quoted from a March 4, 1979, speech at Anderson College in Anderson, Indiana by Jesse Jackson1
According to the old adage, “What man can conceive, man can achieve”. And, while there are a plethora of different ways to express this sentiment, the Reverend Jesse Jackson proclaimed a crucial piece of the formula: Belief. We have to believe in the thing that we conceive. We have to believe in ourselves. On a certain level, we have to believe in the world. Belief is the tricky part. Because our beliefs are based on previous experiences, doing the “impossible”, requires belief in something with which we have little-to-no experience.
Svādhyāya (“self-study”) is the fourth niyama (internal “observation”) in the Yoga Philosophy and one of the ways that we can examine our beliefs in order to be understand what paves the way to our success and what gets in the way of our success. We can do a little contemplation every time we practice with the 2026 group sankalpa, which includes the word “beliefs”. We can also do a little introspection by putting ourselves in the shoes of another person — not only imagining what it would be like to be in a certain situation, but, also, considering what we would believe if we were in that situation.
Remember, our thoughts (i.e., our beliefs) precede our words and actions. So, what would it take for you to believe you were more than a number? What would it take for you to believe in your own freedom? What would it take for you to believe in your ability to (help) alleviate the suffering of a whole nation?
“Freedom is indivisible; the chains on any one of my people were the chains on me.
It was during those long and lonely years that my hunger for the freedom of my own people became a hunger for the freedom of all people, white and black. I knew as well as I knew anything that the oppressor must be liberated just as surely as the oppressed.”
— quoted from Long Walk to Freedom: The Autobiography of Nelson Mandela by Nelson Mandela
Nelson Mandela, who was born today in 1918, was more than a number. He was Madiba and “Father of the Nation” and so much more. Imagine, for a moment, what you would believe if you lived his circumstances?
What would you believe if you were simultaneously a member of a royal family, a lawyer, and a second-class citizen of your country. Would you believe you could use your personal privilege to fight the injustices that made it impossible for you to live in a free, just, and equitable society?
How would your beliefs change if you spent over 27 years in prison (some of it in solitary confinement and some of it with the least amount of privileges) – while simultaneously being heralded around the world as a hero? Which part of those contradictory experiences would shape your beliefs the most?
Finally, what would you believe if you were a Nobel Peace Prize winner and President of your country?
Now, go back and consider how your beliefs shift/change if consider each belief from the perspective of someone who was also a husband and father, a son and a friend.
Click on the excerpt title below for my 2020 post related to Nelson Mandela, with reference to the Yoga Sūtras.
“During apartheid, Winnie Madikizela-Mandela once summoned Yvonne Chaka Chaka to her Soweto home to deliver a note and a message from her husband in prison on Robben Island.
‘It was just a note to say “your music keeps us, your fathers, alive in jail”,’ the Princess of Africa told me earlier this year. I asked her if Madiba ever told her what song of hers he enjoyed most.
‘Umqombothi,’ she replied. It remains her most popular track.”
— quoted from the 12 Dec 2013 City Press article, “Who was Mandela’s favourite singer?” by Charl Blignaut
What would it take for you to believe that you would one day dance to the music that brightened your darkest days? What would it take for you to believe you would one day raise the glass that marked your homecoming?
Click on the excerpt title below for my 2021 “More Than 46664” post related to Nelson Mandela, with reference to music and vedanā (“sensation” or “feeling”).
More Than 46664 (the “missing” Sunday post, with a reference to Monday’s practice)
“[The reign of truth, charity, and love] are now considerations for the men of progress; for those who are imbued with the sincere desire to improve the condition of the human race, and who are prepared to make personal sacrifices to attain so great, so good, so glorious an object; to attain the emancipation of the world from falsehood, and to establish the universal reign of truth; because truth alone can make all the nations of the earth free from mental bondage, and all the evils thence ensuing.
It is this spirit of language and truth which must pervade the whole mass and the entire of society, before man can conceive what man can achieve, or society united can accomplish.”
— quoted from “Chapter VII. Principles and Practice of Religion.” in “Part First.” of The Book of the New Moral World: Containing the Rational System of Society, Founded on Demonstrable Facts, Developing the Constitution and Laws of Human Nature and of Society by Robert Owen
According to the Quote Investigator, the earliest printed version of the aforementioned old adage can be found in the 1845 edition of The Book of the New Moral World: Containing the Rational System of Society, Founded on Demonstrable Facts, Developing the Constitution and Laws of Human Nature and of Society by Robert Owen. A philosopher, social reformer, and one of the founders of utopian socialism and the co-operative movement, Mr. Owen indicated that the achievements (and beliefs) of one person are predicated on the beliefs (and achievements) of an entire society. Nelson Mandela understood this, believed this, lived this, and endeavored to achieve it.
“As I have said, the first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself.”
— Nelson Mandela
Saturday’s playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “07182021 More Than 46664”]
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026
NOTES:1 Jesse Jackson used variations of this refrain in many speeches. This particular phrasing is cited in Psychology Through the Eyes of Faith (1987) by David G. Myers and Malcolm A. Jeeves.
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Taking Another Look @ Madiba’s Lessons on Compassion, Peace, and Music (just the music & blessings) *UPDATED w/excerpt* July 18, 2026
Posted by ajoyfulpractice in "Impossible" People, Art, Changing Perspectives, Dharma, Faith, Gratitude, Healing Stories, Hope, Life, Music, One Hoop, Pain, Peace, Philosophy, Religion, Suffering, Tragedy, Wisdom, Yoga.Tags: #46664, 988, Madiba, Nelson Mandela, samskāras, Shabbat Chazon
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“Shabbat Shalom” to anyone observing Shabbat Chazon! Peace and many, many blessings to everyone and especially to anyone practicing peace, freedom, and wisdom (inside and outside)!
CLICK ON THE EXCERPT TITLE BELOW FOR MORE.
Please join me today (Saturday, July 18th) at 12:00 PM for a yoga practice on Zoom. You can use the link from the “Class Schedules” calendar if you run into any problems checking into the class. You can request an audio recording of this practice via a comment below or (for a slightly faster reply) you can email me at myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
Today’s playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “07182021 More Than 46664”]
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026
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FTWMI: A Coda & EXCERPT: “A Little Grace [plus] Compassion and Peace (with regards to Ralph Waldo Emerson)” July 15, 2026
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Many blessings to everyone and especially to anyone practicing peace, freedom, and wisdom (inside and outside).
For Those Who Missed It: The following coda (& excerpt) were originally posted in 2025. Class details, some links, and some formatting have been updated/added.
“But when the mind opens, and reveals the laws which traverse the universe, and make things what they are, then shrinks the great world at once into a mere illustration and fable of this mind. What am I? and What is? asks the human spirit with a curiosity new-kindled, but never to be quenched. Behold these outrunning laws, which our imperfect apprehension can see tend this way and that, but not come full circle. Behold these infinite relations, so like, so unlike; many, yet one. I would study, I would know, I would admire forever. These works of thought have been the entertainments of the human spirit in all ages.”
— quoted from the 1838 “Divinity School Address” by Ralph Waldo Emerson
You can read this coda before or after you check out the post excerpted below; because, it involves a “full circle” moment I had a few days ago [in 2025] when I was talking to a neighbor.
This neighbor, who has known me all my life, was talking about sharing a meal with old friends and about the conversations that did and did not come up during the meal. Then she said that the problem with the world was that we were taught, as children, that it wasn’t polite or appropriate to talk about certain subjects in public. I mentioned, as I do in the post excerpted below, that I learned this lesson in a different way. Now, here, I should note that my neighbor and I have different hair textures — and, ironically, her mother occasionally did my grandmother’s hair — but, she got my point.
What struck me about the moment is how some rules and mores get passed down (and around) without people knowing why they are the rules and laws that govern our behavior. For instance, here in the United States, certain laws related to slavery are no longer on the books and yet people — of all races and ethnicities — behave as if they are still the law of the land.
More to the point: We don’t talk about this! In some cases, we don’t discuss certain things because we don’t want to start an argument — which is why we need to practice getting “unhooked”.
In other cases, we don’t talk about certain subjects because we don’t want to be banned (for 27 years… and 6 days) as Ralph Waldo Emerson was after addressing the Harvard Divinity School graduating class today in 1838.
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A Little Grace & FTWMI: Compassion and Peace (with regards to Ralph Waldo Emerson)
“The intuition of the moral sentiment is an insight of the perfection of the laws of the soul. These laws execute themselves. They are out of time, out of space, and not subject to circumstance. Thus; in the soul of man there is a justice whose retributions are instant and entire. He who does a good deed, is instantly ennobled. He who does a mean deed, is by the action itself contracted. He who puts off impurity, thereby puts on purity. If a man is at heart just, then in so far is he God; the safety of God, the immortality of God, the majesty of God do enter into that man with justice. If a man dissemble, deceive, he deceives himself, and goes out of acquaintance with his own being. A man in the view of absolute goodness, adores, with total humility. Every step so downward, is a step upward. The man who renounces himself, comes to himself.”
— quoted from the 1838 “Divinity School Address” by Ralph Waldo Emerson
Please join me today (Wednesday, July 15th) at 4:30 PM or 7:15 PM for a yoga practice on Zoom. You can use the link from the “Class Schedules” calendar if you run into any problems checking into the class. You can request an audio recording of this practice via a comment below or by emailing myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
Wednesday’s playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “07152020 Peace & Compassion RWE”]
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026
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FTWMI (repost): A Quick Note & Excerpts About Practicing the R’s July 14, 2026
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Many blessings to everyone and especially to anyone practicing peace, freedom, and wisdom (inside and outside).
For Those Who Missed It: The following was originally posted today in 2024 (and reposted in 2025 with the prompt question was, “Who (or what) pushes your buttons, gets your goat, and gets you fired up like nobody’s business?” Class details, some formatting, and some links have been added/updated.
“Somebody says a mean word to you and then something in you tightens — that’s the shenpa. Then it starts to spiral into low self-esteem, or blaming them, or anger at them, denigrating yourself. And maybe if you have strong addictions, you just go right for your addiction to cover over the bad feeling that arose when that person said that mean word to you. This is a mean word that gets you, hooks you. Another mean word may not affect you but we’re talking about where it touches that sore place — that’s a shenpa. Someone criticizes you — they criticize your work, they criticize your appearance, they criticize your child — and, shenpa: almost co-arising.”
— Pema Chödrön
For the record, I am not going to say, practice, teach (or preach) anything I haven’t been teaching, practicing, and saying (or preaching) for years. Maybe I will tweak the phrasing. Maybe you will hear/see/understand things in a special way — thereby gaining new insight. Either way, regardless of all that is happening in the world, it still comes back to this: Sometimes the only thing you can do is not make it worse.
Yes, sometimes we can do things that make our life and the lives around us better. Sometimes we can write legislation, vote for legislation, and/or vote for people who write and/or vote for legislation that creates more opportunity for peace, freedom, prosperity, and wisdom. Sometimes we can create organizations or work, volunteer, and/or donate to organizations that cultivate peace, freedom, prosperity, and wisdom. There are, however, times when we are too poor — in spirit, heart/courage, skills, and/or material resources — to do anything other than send “thoughts and prayers.”
All that being, I am of the mindset that we can not know what we are able to do and/or what is the best way to respond — rather than react — until we sit down, get still, get quiet, and get honest about our intentions. Once we are grounded and centered, then we can act accordingly. In other words, practice the four R’s:
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RECOGNIZE (that your buttons have gotten pushed and you have the urge/impulse to react).
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REFRAIN (from doing anything, especially that knee jerk reaction).
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RELAX (maybe breathe peace in and breath peace out, or do use a centering prayer).
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RESOLVE (to move forward with mindfulness and intention).
This is the practice taught by the American Tibetan Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön, who was born today in 1936. I often add another R (or two):
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REMEMBER (your intention and why you are doing the thing you are doing).
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RECOGNIZE (again, that sometimes the only thing you can do is not make it worse).
You may be thinking, I don’t have time for all that “navel gazing” and introspection. And, yes, there are definitely times that require a quick response. At the same time, if you make this practice a habit, it only takes a split second to engage when you really need it.
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“By trying this, we learn exactly where we are open and where we are closed. We learn quickly where we would do well to just practice abiding compassionately with our own confused feelings, before we try to work with other people, because right now our efforts would probably make a bigger mess. I know many people who want to be teachers, or feed the homeless, or start clinics, or try in some way to truly help others. Despite their generous intentions, they don’t always realize that if they plan to work closely with people they may be in for a lot of difficulty—a lot of feeling hooked. The people they hope to help will not always see them as saviors. In fact, they will probably criticize them and give them a hard time. Teachers and helpers of all kinds will be of limited use if they are doing their work to build up their own egos.”
— quoted from “Unlimited Friendliness: Three steps to genuine compassion” (Winter 2009 issue of Tricycle) by Pema Chödrön
Please join me today (Tuesday, July 14th) at 12:00 Noon or 7:15 PM for a yoga practice on Zoom. You can use the link from the “Class Schedules” calendar if you run into any problems checking into the class. You can request an audio recording of this practice via a comment below or (for a slightly faster reply) you can email me at myra (at) ajoyfulpractice.com.
Tuesday’s playlist is available on YouTube and Spotify. [Look for “07142020 Compassion & Peace for Pema”]
“Prince Guatama, who had become Buddha, saw one of his followers meditating under a tree at the edge of the Ganges River. Upon inquiring why he was meditating, his follower stated he was attempting to become so enlightened he could cross the river unaided. Buddha gave him a few pennies and said: “Why don’t you seek passage with that boatman. It is much easier.”
— quoted from Matt Caron and from Elephant Journal
If you are thinking about suicide, worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, you can dial 988 (in the US) or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You can also call this TALK line if you are struggling with addiction or involved in an abusive relationship. The Lifeline network is free, confidential, and available to all 24/7. YOU CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
White Flag is an app, which I have not researched, but which may be helpful if you need peer-to-peer (non-professional) support.
If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or need a safe and judgement-free place to talk, you can also click here to contact the TrevorLifeline (which is staffed 24/7 with trained counselors).
In the spirit of generosity (“dana”), the Zoom classes, recordings, and blog posts are freely given and freely received. If you are able to support these teachings, please do so as your heart moves you. (NOTE: You can donate even if you are “attending” a practice that is not designated as a “Common Ground Meditation Center” practice, or you can purchase class(es).
Donations are tax deductible; class purchases are not necessarily deductible.
Check out the “Class Schedules” calendar for upcoming classes.
You’re Invited to Bend… & To Take The Deepest Breath You’ve Taken — On Retreat!
September 25 — 27, 2026